Seal the Deal
Ok, so I need some much needed advice on how to handle a friend's issue who is totally into this chic he works with but doesn't have the nerve to tell her. Frankly, I'm a little miffed as to why he can't just ask her. She's a smart caring girl and not out to break anyone's heart, she's way to nice for that. Makes me blah to actually know there are people out there that are more kind then they need to be.
Everyday for the past 5+ months all I hear about is how perfect she is and how much he adores her and how much he wishes he could ask her out and OH MY GOSH...ask her out already, what is the big deal?
I tell him - so tell her...you have nothing to lose. If she isn't interested in the dating way she'll tell you - women are so point blank - at least I am anyway - although I have been told I'm an odd one but who would have thought?! I just tell it like it is and that's that. There's no hidden agenda with me. Anyway, here's the thing if he doesn't tell her then some other fish is going to come into his pond and snag her with his bait and he's out there lonely fishing rod and all.
My friend is smart, has a great job, makes decent money for our area and his age (29), has a ton of toys (no, not those kind). I'm talking a Harley; Jet ski; Quad; Truck; loves music and does have a good heart. He's funny and way to damn caring for his own good.
So for those of you that read this some what interesting blog send some helpful advice for my buddy on how to "Seal the Deal."
The only other thing I can think of is me actually telling her myself next time I see her out. I will make it a point to see her out and just flat out tell her. Beer makes you do crazy stuff.
I mean really, why do guys take so long to ask girls out? My husband waited 10 months to ask me out - but he ran around telling his buddies, "She wants me she just doesn't know it yet." Yeah yeah yeah, I still don't know it yet! Just kidding...
So any comments on this little dilemma would be grateful as my friend reads my blog daily. He's probably going to be mad about this but I warned him...
So comment away...
posted by DMM @ 5:08 AM
7 Comments:
He needs to simply take a leap of faith. She's either going to say yes or no. 50/50 chance, but you can't find that special someone if your not willing to accept an occasional rejection and put yourself out there.
You sould wonderful, I don't know you. Try....
My hubby was in my group of friends. An officer no less in the military and I was enlisted. I has hopelessly infactuated with him for months before we ended up somewhere together and alone, talking.
Had we listened to the rules, we would have never spoke together, gotten together or anything. We've been happily married for 15 years now.
GO FOR IT.
Funny you should post about this. Your volleyball pal "jimmy" & I were just talking about people talking in circles. I told him that girls talk in circles when they aren't sure if they want to hear the truth. He said he prefers if people are just straight forward & truthful. I need to write a post about this! Your friend needs to just go for it. He needs to make his move before someone else does. He'll regret it forever if he sits back & does nothing. Just casually ask her if she has plans for the weekend & when she says no, that's his prime opportunity to just say, want to get together for dinner or whatever he wants to do. Make it a little more casual at first & see how she reacts to that & take it from there. Most girls drop hints & throw out signs, most guys are just too stupid to see it!! If he reads her signs wrong, live & learn & move on. Sitting back & thinking "what if?" isn't going to get him anywhere. Post again if he chickens out or takes the advice from 3 smart woman!
I will go with the opposite advice. Dude, don't ask her. Every man needs "the one who got away" If you ask her, she might accept, you might marry her someday, hell, you might even have 2.5 kids and a dog together eventually. What does that leave you to pine away for in your old age? NOTHING, that's what. What will you write bad poetry and drink too much over? Do yourself a favor, let this one go.
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Mr. Lady, if he doesn't ask her then I have to hear about it for the rest of my life!! I rather shoot myself in the foot then torture myself with his sadness.
I'm just going to do it for him. Typical man, can't do a thing on their own.
Lindsay I love your advice and of course I have to also side with my fav. sister...I'm surprised no guys have commented...chickens...
Don't worry I'll keep you wise women advised on his progress...
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mr. lady, anyone who has "the one who got away" has that empty, what if feeling about that person. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I have to disagree. If she turns him down, then she can be "the one who missed her chance." He could also write bad poetry & drink too much over that! And if it works out & they do get married & have 2.5 kids, then he'll need to drink too much!
Clearly, my sad attempts at sarcasm have gone badly. Of Course You Should Ask Her Out!
Ah, I knew you were on my side!!
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